I’m genuinely surprised I haven’t already written about this. I think one of the biggest parts of my mask was suppressing my stims (and hyperactivity) – in truth I am a wriggly, fidgety stimmy being. Forever drumming my fingers, bouncing my left leg, spinning a fidget spinner. Oh how I wish I’d had fidget spinners as a child!
I’m not sure if I ever flapped my hands as a child. I started to when I was dating an Autistic woman who had this stim, before I even realised I was Autistic. I would apologise for copying her, but find joining in irresistible. If we’d known about the ways the PDA profile differs from non-PDA autism, I think I’d have gained a diagnosis much sooner (as it was, she said.. “you definitely have sensory processing issues, but you lack the rigidity I’d expect”). Nowadays I tend to shake my hands rather than flap them, as I find that more satisfying.
Unfortunately, a cost of masking my stims as a kid was developing a skin picking stim. Everything else got me told off, but an actually self-injurious stim was apparently fine? I will never understand. Since I was eight, I have literally skin picked every single day of my life. It’s proven near impossible to stop. I had been making an effort to pre-hospital and I probably ought to try again. I do use multiple much healthier stims now as well, and I hope that’s building an armoury against this stim. It seems to be helping me use the self-injurious stim less, but not yet stop using it at all.
I’m so glad I rediscovered the joy of stimming. It should be an Autist’s birthright.
PDA fae 