I need alternative relationships – I’m demiromantic, for a start. We’ve been talking about the concept of relationship anarchy and all interpersonal relationships in a persons life being (close to) equal.
For me, I would prioritise a queerplatonic (QPR) or romantic partner, but all my other relationships are equal. Family is not more important than friends for example. Discussing this helps me learn how to make these kind of approaches work healthily. I want to structure my social network that only those who can cope with being equal to everyone else remain in the network, over time, but first I need to build a stronger network in line with that principle.
I’d hope to find a QPR or romantic partner, but that can come with time.
I wanted to share a resource that was shared as part of the discussion: https://robynlposin.com/being-gentle-with-our-selves. It’s important to allow ourselves to be very gentle with ourselves in life, and to avoid what we need to avoid. Particularly for me, being gentle with ‘my selves’ is an important concept. I don’t want to push my inner child too hard, and I want to learn to work with my inner critic for example.
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