Found another little thing that helped today, probably more so with ADHD avoidance and motivation issues than PDA. I think if my demand anxiety had been high, this wouldn’t have been so successful. I found a streamer on twitch doing pomodoros of 50 minutes followed by ten minute breaks. That’s longer than I can usually motivate myself to focus on something, but the body doubling effect of working alongside a streamer and her audience really helped.
It definitely helps too to think of table tops and table legs (credit to Harry Thompson for that metaphor). When it comes to household care tasks, they’re the table leg towards the table top of eventually being considered independent enough to get a cat. I’ve come a long way on that goal, the main thing now is to learn to a. sustain the progress and b. keep on top of care tasks even during periods of blips. I’m no longer needing support sessions to achieve basic tidying care tasks, which I’m really proud of.
Edited 8/3/23: I no longer recommend Harry Thompson as a resource.
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