PDA fae

Tag: loneliness

  • Friendship gets easier with practice

    Recently I made a post on my instagram about one of my biggest autistic traits is difficulty making, and keeping friends. I’d now state that as biggest PDA trait – but also I’m finding that contact with 111 option 2 is helping me shift my communication, boundaries and locus of control.

    That is to say, I am more aware of what I can control and what I can’t – which really helps with intolerance of uncertainty. It also reduces the anxiety driven need for control.

    I am also better able to stand up for myself but also take responsibility for my own actions, because 111 definitely expect that of you. Once you start doing that, they are very able to work with PDA and autism, actually. They will adapt their communication, and expectations as far as a non-autism specialist service can.

    The outcome of all this is that I am much more selective in who I keep in my life – which makes for friends who actually want to check in on me and see me in person (which as a socially motivated PDAer, I need! )

  • “Radio days”

    This is something I’ve discovered today after putting radio one on in the morning, keeping it on after my mum came to see me, and then returning to the radio when we got back. I’ve actually kept it on into the evening, so it’s been a whole day of radio shows.

    It’s actually very regulating for me. It’s like having background company, which reduces loneliness. It’s also lower demand than tv – you can tune your attention in and out. Pay close attention to the funny chat, let a song be pretty in the background.

    One thing is that sometimes you do have to ignore a song you don’t particularly enjoy. I found the giggles from the commentary made that worthwhile today.

    I think I will try and make time for radio days, much like I do for demand free time. I think they may become equally important for my mental health.