PDA fae

Tag: hobbies

  • Current hobbies

    My main hobby at the moment is knitting. I’m currently working on knitting blanket squares to sew together into a larger blanket. I find I work on it in fits and starts, sometimes I’ll get quite a lot done, other times I avoid for days or weeks at a time.

    I’m planning on trying to knit a temperature blanket for my dad for his 70th birthday, which will require some sustained work to not fall too far behind. Thankfully there are online weather records, so you can go back in time and catch up.

    I want to learn to crochet and add that to my hobbies. To that end, I picked up a little bumblebee crochet set from The Works today, but so far it’s proving rather difficult. I’m finding it a lot more tricky than I did when I started knitting. I think I’d benefit from having someone to learn from in person, like how I learnt knitting from my mum initially. Videos are good, but sometimes it’d help having someone see what you’re doing and telling you if you’re getting it right or not.

    I’m quite impressed with how well I’ve stuck to working on a knitting project over the past year. The past two Christmasses I’ve created two knitted Christmas decorations. That represents quite a bit of dedicated effort, for me. I find it helps if people don’t suggest ‘why not do some knitting?’ or ask ‘have you knitted at all recently?’ and to not place any expectations on myself. When it’s right, I work on my projects, when it’s not, I don’t.

  • High demand capacity

    I’m having a rare day of low demand anxiety/high demand capacity. Seems slightly odd after the demand that I fix the ways I didn’t meet standards in a room inspection within three days – it has to be said yesterday that made me extremely anxious and tanked my mood.

    I guess a good 17 hour sleep was exactly what I needed in that state, after being awake for 28 hours (fairly common for me). It seems to have restored things, and I can make sense of why the things need to be done, so that helps with the demand anxiety. It also helped that when I wrote out the tasks involved, it was less than I had estimated. Also, a local autism charity offered support to get the more difficult tasks done, after I called them for support in the anxious, dysphoric state.

    What’s been really awesome though, is that I’ve had capacity for hobbies. So far today I’ve knitted a little, played a solo TTRPG called Ironsworn, and played a board game with a friend and staff at the supported housing. After writing this post, I’m going to pick back up a book I haven’t touched in over a month.

    Days like this are rare, and very treasured when they occur.

  • Hobbies

    I’d love to have a little set of hobbies I regularly return to. Unfortunately I find sustaining engagement in hobbies really, really difficult. I suppose because I want to engage in them, that very desire causes them to become demands – I want to engage in them, and to fill that want, I need to engage with them. Additionally at times, it may be a ‘want to want’, something I want to be in my PDA flow, but actually isn’t. At least, at the moment. Possibly also ADHD may be involved in these difficulties.

    Something I manage to do on a semi-regular basis is knit. Last Christmas I knitted a wreath with the help of my mum, largely over the course of Christmas eve and day. Unfortunately, I didn’t have a lot of demand capacity at the time and was living in a very PDA unfriendly mental health rehab ward, so meeting the demands involved led to me running out of capacity entirely and being discharged back to an acute ward. Or perhaps, not so unfortunately, as that lead to me moving to the supported accommodation which is a much better fit for me.

    At the moment, I’m trying to work on knitting squares to eventually be knitted into a blanket. It’s a very slow going process. I’m focusing on allowing it to be an imperfect project, accepting the mistakes I make as I go. I’m currently on my second ball of wool, having started in around July.

    I’d like to spend time learning to draw, relearning maths and french, and possibly learn some basic BSL. I enjoy embroidery, thought it takes a lot of concentration and I tend to completely balls up eventually. Baking is another pastime that I’ve enjoyed in the past and would like to get back to. I like board games, but don’t have much space to keep many more than I already have (and playing the same ones gets old after a time). There’s a TTRPG called Ironsworn that can be played individually that I want to play through some time. I have a mirrorless camera and get a lot of enjoyment from photography, but rarely know what I could use as a subject for that art. I used to read endlessly, but now struggle to commit to reading, and I’d like to engage in writing more poetry.

    So, we can see that I’m not short of ideas for hobbies. I’m just short on follow through and sustaining them.