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Tag: food

  • Update: struggling a little

    Recently I’ve been very lonely. I don’t see my friends in person very often, nor do I have that many. Where I live is only a small town. All the activities are attended by women in their 50s and 60s.

    My care coordinator said it best when he said ‘there’s nothing to do in X for 30 year olds, unless you like drink or drugs’. Suffice to say, I don’t intend to take up substance abuse to gain social connections!

    I struggled making friends at university in Cardiff. So it feels like if I couldn’t manage whilst surrounded by 30k students my own age, how do I expect to make friends in home counties small town? It leaves me feeling like the problem is me – that there’s something wrong with me.

    This loneliness and low mood has been making food a particular struggle at the moment. It’s feeling far too demanding to decide what meets my sensory needs, shop for it, store it appropriately, prepare it, cook it, eat it and clean up afterwards. I’m tempted to survive of Huel and toast for a while – low spoons food. Nut butter for protein, toast for carbs, Huel for vitamins and minerals. Not the best diet, but better to be consuming something at least, and it would be easiest with my spoon level and sensory needs at present.

    Hopefully things will get easier soon. I am very glad to be spending a Christmas with family, in the community, doing all the usual Christmas things. I missed out in a big way last year, and I have a lot to be thankful for that I’m well (not psychotic) this time around.

  • Almond butter autonomy.

    It’s never a good start to a day when at 4am, after a night of pain and no sleep, you develop a craving for almond butter on toast… and have no means of having that for breakfast.

    I’m likely going to struggle to eat breakfast at all. My demand capacity is going to be quite a bit lower. It might seem odd, but a large part of that will be due to the loss of autonomy of the choice of what to eat, not pain or sleep deprivation. Of course, I’d probably cope better if my stress cup wasn’t filled by those things – see Tomlin Wilding’s page for information on ‘cups’.

    Odd as it may seem though, the simple lack of the food I actually want for breakfast – and the inability to pop to a shop beforehand to pick it up, or that it wouldn’t be listed on deliveroo groceries, is a problem. I’m already grumpy just thinking about breakfast without my autonomous choice. Nothing else is going to be a good substitute, which is not ideal when pain has already reduced my appetite.

    Sigh. I foresee a taxi ride to the nearest big supermarket today.

  • Food..

    .. is hard. Demands, sensory aspects, executive function, these combine to make food a complete nightmare for me.

    So it definitely doesn’t help when I start losing my appetite again. Might be to do with reducing my risperidone. Might also be to do with staff nagging me too much about how I’m going to lose weight – I do not need extra demands around food or exercise because then neither will happen.

    For now I’m aiming for low spoons nutrition. Smoothies, cereal, microwaved baked beans, protein from the freezer, lots of potato, meals that just need putting in the microwave or oven (and nothing else), and multi-vit water. The highest spoons food I have is apples, which I need to cut up to eat because biting into them makes my gums unhappy.

    Hopefully I can settle into a good rhythm, eating like this, that can sustain me. Smoothies are definitely a low demand, low effort way to get a little more fruit and veg than I was previously.. and the more fruit, veg, carbs and protein I eat, the less processed food I should need to snack on to feel full.