‘What is a demand cup?’ I hear you ask. If you’ll tolerate a link, the best explanation is here: https://tomlinwilding.com/the-demand-cup/. Tomlin’s website is an excellent resource for learning about PDA, I highly recommend checking out more than just that page.
Right now my demand cup is recuperating from my time in hospital. It’s capacity is slowly expanding, but is still somewhat restricted. I’m finding it hard to have faith that it will expand large enough for me to be able to handle more everyday demands than I can at the moment.
I have a lot more autonomy here at the supported living than I did at a mental health rehab ward I got referred to late last year. That experience made very clear that autonomy empties my demand cup, and lack of it fills it right up. The autonomy of doing work (SEN TA) that interests me really helps me meet the demands of that work.
I’m also doing a lot better emotionally, which really helps as well. I could probably benefit from taking more defined demand free time; I remember the first time I purposefully took some, it was complete bliss.
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