I’ve been super anxious recently. My antipsychotic depot’s cause this each time so far outside of hospital, for Trauma Reasons. This weeks was better, in that I didn’t get a week of intrusion symptoms, but I did get nightmares the night before.
I was also extra-sensitive to loneliness. I’m not entirely sure why that’s what came up. I suppose it might have been an emotional flashback. The feeling: all alone in a hostile space, post trauma.
I emailed the PDA society, my therapist and SANEline, all of which have been good sources of support for me in the past. I also tried nightline for an immediate response, which has historically been the best helpline I’ve used (it’s by students, for students, term time in the UK). It wasn’t so helpful this time, and I should have ended the webchat much sooner – it amounted to a degree of emotional self-harm that night.
Thankfully the email responses were a lot stronger. The PDA Society supporter urged me not to give up hope of making connections, though they edged on advising learning to mask better which I’m not 100% on board with. They talked about working with a professional and trusted family member/friend to work on mastering ‘social do’s and don’ts’. I can see some use for that, but it’d be nice to get advice on ‘here’s how PDAers meet people they can be themselves with’. I do appreciate them being able to supply recommendations for professionals that can support.
SANEline suggested hobby groups, and offered questions for further thought. I still need to respond, it’s likely to be a validating discussion. That’s what I find SANEline are most useful for when I talk to them.
My therapist had the best response, which is perhaps unsurprising given she knows me as an individual. She stated that perhaps humans are not the most reliable source of connection. As such, she suggested that maybe I need to spend some time at a Cat cafe to get some oxytocin. She also reminded me that I can brainspot in my own time to strengthen my brains awareness of my good qualities.
So I put that into place after my depot injection. Headed straight to the local cat cafe. A kitty prompted clambered straight onto me and wanted to be held for hours. Definite oxytocin hit!
Following that, I went to the local MH hub to talk to some humans that understand. Had a couple of in depth chats, some light hearted chatting, did a tiny bit of studying. As my therapist predicted, it wasn’t as secure a source of connection – but it was still valuable.
Then, tonight I had too much demand anxiety to sleep. So, I put on my lava lamp for the first time since being here and chilled out. Over the time I: read my queer fantasy book, read up on developmental psychology to prepare for research assistant volunteering, used Finchcare, and sat and watched the lava lamp to the sound of a fire-scape video on youtube.
That last activity made me fixate my gaze on the lava lamp, and I began to notice feeling unusually soothed. Gaze fixation is a big part of brainspotting, so I checked if there was another location where that sense of soothing increased. There wasn’t – at the angle I was sat at, my lava lamp seems to fall in my “soothe spot”. I tried it again later in a different room, and yup it’s the spot.
So I haven’t done the exact brainspotting my therapist recommended, oddly enough – but I have done that! I also did the “injection trauma” spot before leaving my flat to get the depot injection, which does seem to help me cope.
Now I’ve written it all out, it’s clear to me that was another layer of emotional flashback caused by depot injection. A shorter one this time. I attribute that to the process of brainspotting I’ve started on this trauma. It’s good to now have a brainspot I can use to soothe my way out of emotional flashbacks/help me through them till they end. It’s a reminder that there’s a good reason to meet the demand my therapist gave me to strengthen the neural re-wiring in my own time.
PDA fae 