PDA fae

Tag: actuallyautistic

  • Second attempt at facebook

    I’ve decided to give having a facebook page a second attempt. I find generating content for Facebook the hardest, for some reason – I’ve never quite pinned down why. I think because it wants longform posts as well, and I’m using all my mental energy creating them for here.

    I’ve thought of a few different things I can try to mix things up and differentiate the three social media platforms. I want to try and foster more community engagement on Facebook, if I can. That’s going to take being as low demand as possible, and having no expectations on the community, and enticing interest. I hope I can get some discussion going, that would be really cool.

    I’d love to be more well known in the area of PDA advocacy – it doesn’t help that I struggle to keep a regular posting schedule. I struggle to generate ideas for content, and focus on posting when I actually have something to say. Trying to brainstorm ideas would make things very demanding for me. Some months I think of a lot to say, other months are more quiet.

    It’s an adventure, let’s see where this goes.

  • “what would I freely choose to do now?”

    I experienced a lot of demand anxiety today. I had been very disconnected from my demand anxiety after the stress of nearly entering supporting accommodation, and the results of that – which were very serious and quite triggering, so I will not be detailing that here.

    I was sat in the library, around other people, which in itself helped me enter ‘doing things mode’. Watching others apply themselves seems to help switch me into that mode, much like wearing shoes and proper day clothes is known to help some PDAers. Initially I journalled after thinking ‘I have the freedom to write whatever I choose’ – a similar approach to that taken by Dr Gloria Dura Vila in my assessment.

    I then thought of the question in the title, and started brainstorming anything I’d choose to do if it were possible. My first answer was ‘run away to the arctic’ which wasn’t acheiveable, but did make me feel better. As I wrote more, I generated thoughts that I could act on, such as create a research plan, and write a short story.

    I think this will be really good for times when I’m very bored, but my brain is saying ‘No!’ to everything, or days like today, where I really want to be doing, but everything feels very anxiety inducing. Something about starting with the impossible, and then teasing out the possible really helps, and focusing on free choice is key.