PDA fae

Category: university

  • Advice for the teens

    Hi, you teeny terror tots

    • learn to accept deadlines as a way to channel your passions
      • whether that’s uni, starting a business, cleanliness, whatever: deadlines are a part of life. Don’t take them too seriously, because the only ultimate one is actual death, but still
    • learn to tidy AND learn to clean
      • Anyway you can, anyway how
      • These are the skills that truly prevent self-neglect
    • I bet you’re a better cook than I am!
      • If not, start out with baking
    • Embrace your own personal form of brilliance
    • Learn to use some form of AAC
      • A big part of PDA is the language aspect, and AAC helps all humans communicate
      • even if it’s just a ‘I’m ok, I’m NOT ok’ wristband – you’ll help all your interpersonal relationships
    • Learn to be ok with your own company, and learn when you’re getting too intense about one specific person
      • No one loves being the focus of a special interest/a favourite person – not even your partner
    • Forge your own paths, please: we’ve all got ways to shine.
    • Also; let’s teach this world the beauty of stimming, eh?

  • Finally home for good!

    NOTE: THIS POST IS AFFECTED BY THE REMANTS OF A SEVERE MOOD DISORDER, AND AS SUCH THE CONTENT VARIES FROM MY USUAL POSTING

    Oh gosh I felt so trapped on that ward. I literally had to run away from my discharge meeting because of that feeling – I needed to move, move move move move.

    Thankfully I know that coffee helps my brain, but that ideally it should not have milk in it (obviously!).

    Now I have my sensible meds, a sensible care co (lovely woman, B), sensible times to take them, a sensible psychiatrist in the community – and a sensible way to get diagnoses I need.

    I’ve had to defer a module at the OU which genuinely makes me very upset – but no worries, I can restart and do better than I was. It was a “bridge” module between level one and level two, which only makes me all the more determined – I will graduate this time, and probably in double time. I’ve studied full time before, I can do so again haha. For now I just need to finish the module I started and focus on the *maths content* – because everything else from that module is revise-able.

    Genuine study advice for anyone struggling: build in time to review. That’s what gets things into long term memory. My maximum working memory is literally SIX, and that’s where I get stuck – I have trouble holding things in my working memory to get to short term, to long term. My verbal working memory is better than my numerical as well, which might literally be stuck at 3 (working memory is 5 +/- 2, after all).

    As it goes, I’ll keep typing about specifically my life – here, substack, instagram, facebook. That’s all I can offer, my experience, my ways to cope: PDA style.

  • How does a PDAer study?

    I have a lot of demand anxiety about studying right now, so I’m going to avoid by making a post about what usually helps me to study. This may or may not work for you, or it may help you think on what would work for you to be a student – take or leave whatever does or doesn’t feel right.

    1. ‘Just prepping’
      • This involves getting the layout of the desk right. Loading my OU page that I need. Writing out the title, date etc on the page. Sometimes telling myself ‘I’m just gonna prep’ gets me going (and today, it wasn’t enough.)
    2. Just do five minutes
      • Set a timer for 5 minutes. I promise myself I can definitely stop after 5 minutes – but I try and get that amount done. I’ll have 5 minutes more work done than I would, I might find my flow.
    3. Avoid one study task with another
      • Too anxious to make new notes? I review some old ones. Or type up handwritten notes into new. Or work on a different section of the course – the OU is very useful for this, because you can leave something you avoided unchecked, so I know to return when I feel able.
    4. Set a flexible study calendar
      • I find it best to put loads of potential sessions into a schedule, and then use flexibility with them.
    5. Study at the Open University
      • Lower social demands. Eased me into studying in the first module. Flexibility on when and where to study – no requirement to attend lectures in person. Not even a requirement to attend tutorials unless I think it’ll help. I also get to study the Open Degree, where I can freely choose my modules (Undergrad and Masters available.)
    6. Following my passions
      • For me this ties into the Open Degree. I don’t have to force myself to study any modules that aren’t truly interesting to me. This could also look like studying your dream subject.
    7. Pomodoro
      • This is a technique of studying for X amount of time, and then a break. Usually it’s 25 minutes, can be 50. Could be much less if that’s what I need.
    8. Twitch study with me streams
      • I love these. You get a little community to chat with on breaks, gentle study music playing to keep you focused, and the sight of someone actively studying as you go. Very helpful with ADHD-blocks.
    9. I believe the OU will have some study with me sessions as well, and they have an Study With Me discord.

    These little ideas help keep me on track most of the time. And writing this has me feeling more inspired to Study!

  • The benefits of distance learning

    For a little while now I’ve been a student at the Open University. I studied previously, in my twenties, at Cardiff University. My previous degree subject was psychology, now it’s the Open Degree. I only obtained a Diploma of Higher Education last time, due to struggling with undiagnosed autism, ADHD, my first full blown manic episode, and being unsupported in recovering from trauma. All in all, my previous experience of study was not a great one. The expectation to attend lectures at a given time, for example, did not sit well with my PDA. I also struggled with the expectations around required reading – mostly because we were left to discern for ourselves what was necessary to read and in what detail. This was very difficult for me, not helped by a hyperfixation on my trauma leaving me only able to work on my coursework. We were set coursework each week, as well, giving me no time to dedicate to catching up on reading in these circumstances.

    Study at the OU is much more suited to me. We can work at whatever time suits us, as the materials are online and in a provided textbook. The tutorials are usually recorded, and are not mandatory to attend. It’s ok to get ahead, or fall behind – everything is on your own schedule. I like to stay on top of things, working on the week that corresponds to the dates suggested, as this makes me feel in control of my studies. I prefer the way that the OU study builds you up slowly, and also helps teach you study skills as an inherent part of the course – sometimes my understanding is really good, but my skills at study are weak. I used to excel in a classroom based environment, but that didn’t adequately prepare me for the independence of university level study my first time around. I feel the OU are much better at bridging this gap, and making sure you acquire these skills as you go – rather than expecting students to just ‘figure it out’.

    I much prefer this format of delivery of content as well. I like that everything is either online or in written format, and that I can work on it where ever I can transport my devices to, and get internet connection. It provides a sense of freedom that I find really helpful, as I’m not limited to a university library, lecture hall or my bedroom in student halls.

    So far, study with the OU has been a far more positive experience and I’m so glad I’ve given it a try.

  • How about writing in a logical order?

    “Introduction paragraph should be the first to be read, and last to be written”

    Gosh how my brain is rankling at that idea, of writing the first paragraph of my essay last. Especially the more my lecturer returns to this idea, the more my brain thinks ‘never needed to do that so far, why would I start now?!’

    The idea was a demand the first time it was mentioned, three or four times later and it’s a definite No. The essay gets written from the beginning, as it will be read! As is sensible!

    I guess I understand why some would find writing an introduction based on stuff that have already written out easier, but for me, an essay plan usually enables me to write an introduction – that is how I know where my essay is going to go.

    It’s a silly point, but this really stood out to me as causing demand anxiety – the statement that the introduction will be written last.

  • My second chance.

    Metanoia pays off, it seems.

    That’s a word I’ve used here before: the idea of profound lasting positive change after a breakdown, esp. psychotic breakdown.

    I’ve just been approved for a student loan to return to university! I had worried due to previous study and overpayments I wouldn’t be, so things had been uncertain and stressful. It’s so good to have the certainty about what I will be doing come October 7th.

    It will be the Open Degree at the Open University, which in short refers to multidisciplinary study – lots of all the sciences for me, social and life/physical. Lots of modules on mental health, autism and ADHD, biology, sociology. It’s so exactly my area of interest – this is what I did my A levels in, bio, sociology and psych and I loved those.

    2021’s psychotic breakdown really did lead to massive change for me. I got the actual care I needed from it, and rescued from stagnation where I didn’t feel competent to try anything. I also didn’t know what my goal, or aim was. It had been clinical psychology, and I lost that. Lost interest in it as well.

    I didn’t have anything to replace it though, till I added the world of neurodevelopmental difference to my knowledge of neurodivergence (including mental ill health in that). Until I reframed everything as ‘neurodiversity’ and ‘examples of neurodivergence’ – that was a real paradigm shift. I also learnt how vital lived experience is and the power it holds, from working with my lived experience practictioner. But also from the wealth of lived experience shared on social media.

    That gave me a drive to pursue after I started recovering. A HCA on the first ward that year said logically SFE should provide funding, otherwise they make no return on their investment in me. That provided the spark to reconsider university study, the hope it might be possible.

    Sometimes living alone is lonely, but it provides me with the space I need to study without others around me. I have good meds, I have new diagnoses, I can get new accommodations. I understand myself better and what works for me. I have trauma therapy finally. The OU puts out so much needed and helpful guidance on how to study, and the level one modules are a gentle start. I get to study slowly.

    Things should be much better this time, so I am very, very excited for my second chance.