The first benefit of discovering PDA and realising it applied to me was finding I could finally work “with” my brain. Meaning I could approach life in a way that didn’t leave me fighting with myself every step of the way. Dissociating from demand anxiety. Beginning to learn not to fawn (still working on this). Advocating for myself. Taking demand free time.
This is true for my other neurodivergences as well (neurodevelopmental or otherwise).
With dyspraxia, I find it easier to make progress on a craft when I work on a repetitive project. In knitting that was my blanket squares, in crochet it’s doing rows of double crochet that will eventually become an infinity scarf. (See my latest instagram post!) This drills the basic steps into my procedural memory (“muscle memory”). I also try to only learn one new stitch at a time with new projects, or maybe just one new skill – like a joining technique.
I also focus on physical activity I find easier to coordinate. I don’t worry about team sports where I tend to let the team down. In fact, I don’t tend to bother with competitive sport at all.
With dyscalculia, long before my diagnosis (but well after my suspicions), I learnt stats procedures “in words”. That is, I learnt the concepts in verbal form, rather than running the formulas over and over. This isn’t as easy to apply to numeracy (it’s hard to write out the concepts of the procedure for calculating a percentage I find.) It helped that Cardiff University taught the procedural concepts thoroughly. This meant I was able to verbalise the steps of a formula, rather than just being given the procedure as formulas. I probably need to practice looking at a formula and breaking it down into it’s constituent verbal concepts.
With ADHD, it’s things like K.C. Davis’s “five things cleaning”. I struggle to sequence my actions, and approaches like this finally make it possible for me to tidy my room. It can also mean making sure I get more physical activity as this slows down my mind.
When it comes to bipolar, it’s about working to get enough sleep. Taking meds religiously. Watching for warning signs.. but also keeping enough factors that promote well-being in your life.
It’s also about meeting your sensory needs. I now know I find visual input very over-stimulating for example. So I wear sunglasses on sunny days. I go to smaller supermarkets where there’s fewer products and aisles. I allow myself to eat in a way that meets my sensory needs and don’t apologise for it.
And on top of that, it’s allowing myself to stim and fidget. I was forever told to “sit still”, “stop fidgeting” as a kid. Now I know it’s a neurological need, and I meet it.
Knowing you’re neurodivergent really is more than half the battle.
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