Whenever people talk about their experiences of their neurodivergence, there’s always something that doesn’t quite resonate with me. Most autistics speak of socialising overload, but for me I get lonely very easily and can find it very difficult to be alone. That often makes me feel like a ‘weird autistic’, sometimes it makes me worry that somehow I tricked my assessor.
With ADHD I don’t relate to gaining a sudden, new obsession with a topic or hobby, only to lose it a short time later. I suspect this might be because of my PDA making any hobby feel demanding, and possibly the effect of past trauma – I don’t experience ‘interest’ the way I did when I was younger anymore. When I was little I had intense interests in space and dinosaurs, to the point of doing things like self-teaching myself evolution at the age of 8. Over my teen years and 20s, I lost that experience, struggling to find interest in anything and definitely not maintaining any hobbies. It’s not a lie to say that I started to live entirely online, engaging mostly in forums. That might partly explain why I find alone time so difficult, as I struggle to have anything meaningful to fill that time.
Another experience I struggle to relate to is aiming to carry out one task, only to realise that another needed doing, going to another location .. and finding another task. In general, I’m not sure I relate to many of the inattentive symptoms, though I am still waiting on my report to find out what type of ADHD I have. I suspect it will be hyperactive/impulsive.
I suppose it’s worth remembering that we don’t need to relate to every single possible trait or aspect before we can claim a neurodivergent identity for ourselves. For example, I’m clearly bipolar, but do not tend to go on big spending sprees when manic.
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