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Category: low mood

  • Everything sucks a little right now.

    I’ve been experiencing a lot of very low mood recently. A lot of anhedonia – loss of pleasure in activities, and a lot of feeling like a failure of a person. A failure for not graduating from university, for never having lasted in a job, for not being able to drive, for not being in a long term relationship with a family and my own home. For not being a settled 30 something.

    We’re trialling me on lamotrigine. It’s been known to cause me severe constipation the previous two times I’ve tried it, and it can cause a lethal skin rash, so this may not go well. I have to really hope it does though, because it’s basically the only safe mood lifting drug I can try, i.e. it won’t cause me to experience mania. Don’t worry, it’s possible to intervene if a rash does start to develop.

    It makes me really nervous. We all respond differently to medications and lamotrigine may just not work for me at all. If it doesn’t, I’m really out of options and just have to tolerate the life destroying effects of the near constant low mood I experience (I believe one psychiatrist felt I had dysthymia alongside bipolar). I don’t know how I’d cope with that, and it’s going to be a long slow journey to find out, because due to the rash, lamotrigine has to be increased very slowly.

  • Life is boring..

    .. life feels boring?

    Is life boring?

    It definitely feels it recently. Life has been feeling same-y, repetitive, lacking anything truly pleasurable, or worthwhile.

    I’ve also been sleeping a lot – regular 12+ sleeps, with very low demand capacity, struggling to cook, or want much food.

    Sounds like mild depression to me.

    So maybe life isn’t boring, but depression is making it seem that way. That’s what I’m hoping, because if that’s the case, there’s tangible things I can do about it.

    Though, part of me suspects that it’s also that human society is badly set up.. if you want to get out of the house and do something, what can you do?

    Shop? spend money you don’t have on things you don’t need

    Cafe? Park? Library? Cinema? It’s a limited range of options.

    OR

    There’s go down a pub… and we wonder why drinking is so common in society.

    It’s hard to think what there is to plan to go out and do with my time, that could be some spontaneous fun. I think that’s part of what I’m lacking, something different, out of the ordinary, spur of the moment… but it’s so hard to think what that could look like.

    All the options just feel like another part of the mundanity.

    I don’t know if depression is the reason that mundanity feels so oppressively unbearable, or not. If it’s not, I don’t know what to do about that feeling.

    But working on making sure I’m looking after my mood sounds like a place to start, and nothing has to be fixed all at once. It’s a journey… and yesteday (I write this at 3am), getting some sunshine, spending time with friends … and making plans with a local healthwatch* to do work around Autistic and learning disabled people stuck in prisons and ATUs was definitely a step along that journey. Definitely feels like a bigger step than the previous day which was made up of lonely sleeping and dozing (that horrible half asleep state where you want to just pop downstairs and see people you no longer live with). But I try to remember the value of rest, and perhaps that day of doziness was just as important and restorative – and prepared me for the day I had yesterday.

    *If you’re in the UK, you can find your local healthwatch here.