Demand free time

Recently I’ve needed a lot of this. I’ve been dealing with a series of traumaversaries throughout July and August, which has been Very Not Fun, and they obliterated my demand capacity.

I re-downloaded tiktok, with better knowledge of how to curate a better feed for myself than when I first started with the app back in 2022. It’s now a lot of Autism/ADHD/Trauma recovery content with the occasional pet content (usually cats), and sometimes cleaning/cooking videos. It now feels replenishing to spend a number of hours browsing those videos.

I find tiktok an ideal way to have demand free time that isn’t ‘understimulating’. Sometimes demand free time does need to be time spent just sitting, maybe with music on, and that can be replenishing in a shorter amount of time. But my ADHD finds that very difficult.. or sometimes there is just a very large amount of demand free time required. In those moments, social media becomes the perfect activity. I can engage in multiple special interests, without being required to expend very much effort at all.

Of all the things that learning about PDA taught me, demand free time was the most useful, life changing concept I learnt of. I can finally recuperate from life properly, and much much faster. It helps me stave off (and when needed start to recover from) burnout. I now know it is a vital need to empty my demand cup.