Uncertainty

One of the key traits of a PDA profile is ‘intolerance of uncertainty’ and for me that’s never stronger than when it applies to uncertainty about what my future looks like. Right now, that’s because of a job interview I had yesterday. I did the best I could, but was also honest about my disabilities, and it could go either way. That means I don’t know what I’ll be doing in two weeks time. Whether life will continue much as it is now, or if I’ll have a new job to adjust to. Somehow it’s worse because it’s relatively close that a big change might take place.

It’s leaving me feeling out of control. As a result I have very little demand capacity today. Earlier I struggled to get myself to respond to hunger by eating, because my body was expecting food. I used my support meeting to ask for help with the uncertainty, but the staff only know the advice that works for allistic mentally ill people i.e. they gave advice that placed expectations upon me. I may have responded to being given puzzle sheets to ‘keep my mind busy’ by putting them straight in the bin: exerting autonomy is more reparative for me right now than a suggested distraction technique.

I wish more people had my therapists level of understanding, as she would have known how to help. Or even just to validate my experience, without aiming to fix it. I just need my autonomy re-affirming, and reminders of what I do have control over. Uncertainty is difficult, and maybe always will be. I haven’t seen much discussion of what helps PDAers cope with it, and I’d be intrigued to know what my neurokin do to cope.